Help Wanted: Ask and You Shall Receive

You’ve probably heard the words, “Ask and you shall receive.” I’ve been reflecting on this phrase recently as I haven’t always been the best at reaching out. Sure, I have no issue asking questions, but when the query involves a request for help, I tend to retreat. What’s even more typical is that the thought to ask for assistance doesn’t even cross my mind in the first place. I’ve often chalked this up as a more positive attribute. After all, I consider myself capable, independent, and resilient — I don’t need to burden someone else when problems arise. It’s the “I got this” mentality that can be inspiring and productive, but as I’ve realized with age, lonely and exhausting as well.

Patrick had foot surgery (arthrodesis) last week, and for the first two weeks he must elevate his foot for 23 hours of the day. He’s getting up to use the restroom and to shower, and that’s about it. The whole healing process takes a few months, so we are in for a bit of a journey, to say the least. While having to rest and recover will be no cakewalk for Patrick obviously, it’s also a major change up for me. I’m picking up the slack and attending to the cats, meals, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, errands, etc. Marriage is in sickness and in health, and we’re fortunate that this situation is temporary. Although, if you ask Patrick, it may end up feeling like forever for him (especially with my…